I need some advice here.

[MxP0w3r17]

Alright well its been a year in a half since ive been in a relationship and well to tell you i think its about time to get back in to one. So at my work there this chick that well i kinda of like well you all know what i mean i actually do like her, she had long blonde curly hair, blue eyes, very beatiful girl, but the thing is that im like to shy to go up and talk to her, like i can usally go up to anyone and talk to them but i can't talk to her for some reason. Its pisses me off when i start to go over there to talk to her i just freak out and go somewhere else and it makes me just want to punch or thorw something, and i can't stop thinking about her and its makin me mad at myself so i need some help here anyone will due please i need some advice or something, thanks.

[egarrard]

How old are you and how old is she? (It will help with the advice...)

But, generally, just go for it! All she can do is say no. Or think of something besides asking her for a date and just go talk to her. Without running. Start with the simple things. She's no different than you.

[MxP0w3r17]

im 17 almost 18 and shes 17

[egarrard]

Okay, going for a beer after work is out.

Go to a museum exhibit.
Or a sporting event.
Own a telescope? She's probably seen the Moon. Ask her if she's ever seen Jupiter or Saturn. And would she like to?
Do you go to church? Does she? They're great places to get to know someone with lots of others around. Safe.
Any state parks around to explore?

You just need to find something safe to break the ice conversationally, that will naturally lead into doing something with her. :thumb

[Orangepeel]

How about an ice cream parlour date, take her out to a Starbucks for a latte, hot chocolate, or similar?

[MxP0w3r17]

thanks for the advice in all but i haven't even talked to her that much and im like well to shy to ask her about anything like goin someplace, thats what is what i need advice is how to overcome my shyness, i can usually to talk to anybody but her for some reason i can't i have no clue why and its startin to piss me off.

[SicKNeSS]

How about an ice cream parlour date, take her out to a Starbucks for a latte, hot chocolate, or similar?

oh god starbucks LOL

you could take anybody out to starbucks :Blah

[eire1274]

thanks for the advice in all but i haven't even talked to her that much and im like well to shy to ask her about anything like goin someplace, thats what is what i need advice is how to overcome my shyness, i can usually to talk to anybody but her for some reason i can't i have no clue why and its startin to piss me off.
Sorry I skipped out on this one.

Shyness is all perceived discomfort, e.g. you are worried that if you say "hi," she'll tell you to f*** off. Get over it! If she reacts badly to your GENUINE greeting, or a nice invitation to hang out, then she is somebody not worth your time anyway.

Don't ask to go out on a date. I think the Starbucks idea is perfect. Ask if she wants to talk, hang out, etc. If romance is a possibility, it will make itself known BY ITSELF. You can't force it.

Forget your shyness. It doesn't exist. Forget sex. Forget anything except talking to another person, to see if she would like some coffee.

[2JSC]

Forget your shyness. It doesn't exist. Forget sex. Forget anything except talking to another person, to see if she would like some coffee.

This is true, but in my case I never had the thoughts in the first place. I met a girl through a friend. She was over at his house with some other people and we talked for al ittle while. Few weeks later she was over at his house again, and we talked some more, caught up on things. As we were leaving his house I just said, 'Hey wanna go grab something to eat or drink?" and she said yah sure, to kind of continue the conversation that we started in the house. After food we exchanged phone numbers in order to talk or go hang out, no official dates at that time, just friendly stuff. But after a month or 2 of hanging out and talking(a lot) we started to date eachother. And after seeing her so offen and knowing what she was like, and what her life was like it all started to look :nuts(googlie eyes) to me. And we were together for about a year durring high school.


So keep it in mind that you can't jump inot a relationship, they will form on thier own. :Thumb

[SicKNeSS]

I've lived with being shy all my life. I dunno how it came about and why. The one thing I can say to myself when I want to get into a relationship is don't look for sex. Love is not a game to me.....to me it's true and real.

Unfortunately I have no idea what to do to get into a relationship.

[eire1274]

Okay, by "sex" I was referring to the difference of sex, not copulating. LOL!

[Anduril]

ok, its real simple. Go up to her and say "LISTEN! YOU ARE GOING ON A DATE WITH ME RIGHT NOW, WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT! NOW GET IN MY CAR!"

Now this approach hasnt worked for me, maybe Im not yelling loud enough. But try that, and be forceful.


Dont listen to anything I say

[Orangepeel]

Coffee's a good idea. It's not pushy or too forward. But make it a nice coffee shop, somewhere that maybe she could even just get a nice hot chocolate if she's not into coffee.

You might want to skip the Dunkin' Donuts for the coffee though. At least a Starbucks looks and feels more like a relaxed, comfy atmosphere and not drive thru quickie service :). The snacks are yummy too. Nothin' better than a nice hot chocolate with whipped cream and a brownie or nature bar. Mmmm, decadent but not as pricey as a dinner out so she doesn't feel too pressured, if you catch my drift. And besides, you can't be sure how the date's going to go either!

[raven27]

If I was you I would not do it.If you like your job do not take her out you do not know what may happen.Like if you got a promotion and she gets mad and say you do something too her. Just think before you act and think about what may happen.