help? =*(

[hobbs]

ok, i thought is would be the place for my problem, here it goes. My friend niki ive liked her for over 6 months and we have always been good friends but my and my other friend erin got into a fight and called niki a ***** and a ****. So i told niki and erin denies everything, she has her friends to say taht im lieing and rob and jon(rob is niki's ex and jon is her bf) they both hate me so they say im lieing also. so niki wont even talk to me now, she thinks im a piece of **** like other guys. I dunno what to do, and its realy starting to hurt me.



link to the fight.. (http://www.xanga.com/item.aspx?user=lovemelikecrazi&tab=weblogs&uid=289578170)


p.s. Im sorry for all of the cussing i hope noone is offended



PLEASE HELP ME!!!! :(

[CyberGuy]

Hobbs, sometimes it is best to keep out of the middle of things.

When one person says something about someone else, you had better have concrete evidence before presneting that information to the person being dissed. Why? Because 9 out of 10 times that you do this without real proof, the person making the remarks simply denies saying anything and makes you look like a doofus (as you have just experienced).

If you really want to salvage these relationships, there is only one thing you can do - and there is no guarantee of success. You are going to have to eat crow. Offer sincere apologies to both Erin and Nikki. To Erin for breaking her trust in you by passing on her remarks, and to Nikki for presenting 'hearsay' without real proof other than your word (never enough). Plead temporary insanity brought on by a full moon, bad hearing and piss-poor judgement. If they really are your friends they will accept this (but you may hear about it at parties from now on) and allow you back into the circle. The risk remains that they will tell you to take a hike and never speak to them again - if that happens, they were less your friends than you thought. All you can do is try and plead mercy - it will either work or it will not.

[hobbs]

thanks, yeah i think im just going to froget about them, ive tryed appolgising to them and they wont take it well erin did but niki wont. oh well **** happens. im being sent to a milatary school for this school year so oh well.

[computerdude]

Stay single trust me it's so much better. :lmao

[hobbs]

yeah all of this sucks, im about to jump of a bridge just to end it. :Sigh But i do have evidance i have logged aim convs and text messages on my cell phone. but erin still says im faking it all... :mad

[CyberGuy]

yeah all of this sucks, im about to jump of a bridge just to end it. :Sigh But i do have evidance i have logged aim convs and text messages on my cell phone. but erin still says im faking it all... :mad

If that is still not good enough, then it is apparent they are not the friends you thought they were. Say goodbye to these people and move on. It's a big world out there pal. Just learn from your experience - it is a harsh teacher, but a thorough one.

I know experiences like this hurt bigtime - i've been there a few times myself. You will get over it - I promise. Just give yourself some time, space and start talking to new people.

Just leave the bridges for sightseeing ok? They are not worth it.

They have proven themselves to be unworthy of your friendship. You can always make more.

[hobbs]

Thanks cyberguy, its jsut you think you know someone so well that they will trust you, but when this happened it was like a ton of brick hitting me. i guess im jsut depressed :Sigh

[hobbs]

hey thanks cyberdude for helping me out, realy thank you. and computerdude that was jsut random :KICK ASS but thanks for trying :Thumb

anyone els wants to comment please psot