Well my wife to be broke up with me last week [Archive]

BishiKaze

06-05-2006, 02:12 AM

Hey everyone, Hi Sherry.

First off its me Daniel (Race234) long time no see, how is everyone, I have been out of the computer loop for a year or so now and I have been gone from this site for some time now, missed all of you ^^

Anyhow I met this girl, falled in live been with her for a year and purposed to her and everything was going great and then she broke up with me saying that she wasnt sure if she would be happy with me or with someone else not to mention she was fighting her secual preferance, she was a lesbian before meeting me and isnt sure if she wants to date woman or me but she has made it clear that she doesnt want me around anymore and she was going to move out of the apartment that I got but then realized that she has no where to go so she convinced my roommates to have me leave the apartment, and you know what that hurt but fine, Im moving back to California, oh ya did I mentioned I moved to Las Vegas to be with her, anyhow Im moving to Cali going to stay with my folks finish school and then probably get an apartment in San Jose to get a good tech job.

All I know is that it hurts so much and to top that she breaks up with me and continues to make me feel like ****, I did everything for this girl, I would have given her the world but she just turned it all away and I still dont really have a reason, I mean she named some but those of what she mentioned are tipical problems that all relationships faced she just never wanted to sit down and talk about them.

Either way from what a lot of people tell me Im better off and deserve a girl that will treat me better and not use me, and I agree. I see all the **** that she has done to me and the stress and pain and changes I went through for her to make her happy and yet whats funny is I see all this and yet I still love her sooo much.

But some down time with my folks and taking care of myself will do myself some good and get my life back on track anyhow I guess I just wanted to rant but anything any of you want to know or say just ask and I shall thank you in advance for your support.

On another note Sherry could you talk to Rodney about seeing if I can get my account back??? I see its still there but I dont remember my password and I have changed emails since then, thanks for your help.

Again Thank you all of you and I look forward to learning about all the tech changes that have gone by and getting back into a hobby that I loved to do so much ^^

Also its nice to see some of the smiley faces I made for Rodney still being used that is sooo cool. ( :devil :bangcomp ) made those two ^^

viperrcr

06-05-2006, 02:22 AM

Damn man, that sucks...Been down that similar road before. Yeah it hurts, real bad even, but you want to know something...You will heal :) . You will find the "right one" someday and it will all be a memory. If it didn't happen to me, I never would have met my wife! We have been married 10 wonderful years and have a 7 and 5 year old boys and everyday is more wonderful than the next and our relationship gets closer and closer as the years go by! Tomorrow is a new day! Hang in there!
I even wound up getting a call from my ex-fiance this year who somehow tracked me down, telling me how she regretted leaving me...Too bad for her! Hah! ;)

BishiKaze

06-05-2006, 02:53 AM

thanks for your words, they do help, I know there are more out there and I will find the right one but man does it still hurt but you know whats funny from the way she was I know I will be the only guy out there willing to go through her issues but like your ex, I know after I move out of the state to Cali she will regret it to and you know her loss.

I dont need to the stress or drama so Im looking forward to the change and actually finding someone that will be there for me a real 50/50 relationship.

Again thanks for your words they really do help

Saturn2888

06-05-2006, 02:57 AM

Man, I just finished something with a girl FINALLY! Because his other guy made his move so I could finally tell myself to get out of the picture. I hope you feel like you can just go back to yourself you know? You were always a cool modder. How's that XBox?!!! GREAT TO HAVE YOU BACK! We've been talking about the 3GM C|_||L+ and stuff and how some regulars vanished.

BishiKaze

06-05-2006, 03:01 AM

hey how you been ya Im back and my xbox hasnt really changed, I went through a time of seperation I took a break from these expensive habbits and picked up an even more expensive habbit a girlfriend lol but as you read that didnt end well at least with a car or computer you know where your money went lol instead all the **** I bought her will not go to please someone else that I guess is what really erks me but hey what can I do but get over her take a break and find a new girl to do all those fun things with again but make it right this time. Not to mention I learned from this and now have a better idea of all the signs of a bad relationship and can deal with it faster before it gets to far.

Saturn2888

06-05-2006, 03:23 AM

Oh, just read my post. What I meant to say by what I did is: THAT REALLY FREAKIN' SUCKS! and I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN! lol. Girls... Heh, you'll find one. I know it's taken me a long time to find the one I did and you know what? I'll find another even if it takes me a few years. I mean, I'm 19, I gots lots of 'em (years), and I'm guessing you do too. Well, if you're not a chain smoker or an alcoholic that is... lol.

Yeah, my method of getting over girls is to play videogames and buff up my PC! Actually, the only way for me to do that is win stuff in contests like the two from 3GM. Yeah, you should check out the winners for Giveaway 27, actually, you should just check out giveaway 27! lol. It's freakin' crazy.

BishiKaze

06-05-2006, 03:30 AM

ya Im going to dive deep into my hobbies to keep me distracted for the time being and talking to guys like will help me feel at home.
expect some insane or at leats almost insane stuff to come from me ^^ well I hope lol

BishiKaze

06-05-2006, 04:00 AM

what sucks about this whole situation is how she is manipulating my friends /roommates into spending time her only and staying away from me so I have no one for support and she keeps them out for long periods of time so I have no idea what she is aying about me, all I know is this girl has some serious issues and I dont know why I didnt drop a long time ago. Everyone I talked to that knew her with the exception of 3 close friends all say she has issues and only knows how to use people and make sure she is the poor inasent little girl who was treated badly growing up.

Whatever I guess its a good thing all her problems are no longer mine and now the roommates have to deal with them if that even last long they gave her a month to clean up her act and get a job to start paying for my share of bills and rent now that I am leaving and considering she doesnt like to work and cant hold a job I dont see that lasting long lol which I think is the reason why she is trying to hookup with one of my roommates so that she can use him in a way to allow her to stay and have him take care of it but lets put it this way I was the bread winner in the household and shes an expensive girl luckily he only digs asians and although she is a friend he knows shes a ***** and wouldnt ever consider or want to date her so all I know is I wish I could be here at the end of the month to see her ass get booted and if it doesnt then good for her she grew up a little lol but she will never have a happy life is she keeps up the direction shes going, it scares me becuase the way she is if she finds the wrong guy or girl for that matter they might get so pissed and she may end up dead or something becuase of how shes a walking talking c-tease and doesnt want to do it which is annoying but what do you expect shes in reality a scared little girl that has only scene negetive things her life and when I was trying to show her a positive life and a good family that would take her in as their own I think she freaked and that might have been why she broke up with me but again her loss.

everyone you will probably get a lot of my rant post to help vent so sorry a head of time about that, I just dont know what to really do or make of all this, Im so confused and hurt by all of it but all I know is I just need to put up with it for a few more days and I will be away from all her arguements and her actions that try to hurt me.

BishiKaze

06-05-2006, 04:15 AM

well everyone I am going to sleep see you all in the morning-ish take care and thanks for the few kind words I have recieved so far, I know being able to talk to and hang out with guys with common interrest will really help me get through this, thanks again.

Saturn2888

06-05-2006, 04:30 AM

K, yeah, have a good night's rest. Lemme tell ya, after this happened yesterday (I found out yesterday with the girl I was talkin' about), I didn't dream about her at all, and I had no bad dreams, AND I could finally get up! I didn't have to sleep a lot before I could get out of bed. It was amazing.

Actually, the majority of my college buddies are girls who are friends with the girl I know, so it could get weird next semester. But yeah, I hadn't hung out with guys until I got back home and geez, it's TOTALLY different. Man, I know what you mean.

"with the exception of 3 close friends all say she has issues and only knows how to use people and make sure she is the poor inasent little girl who was treated badly growing up." yeah, makes sense. That totally sucks man. Like, I can't even believe that. There's really nothing you can do. People sometimes don't realize things you know (not you, those others), and sometimes the only person you can help is yourself.

"if she finds the wrong guy or girl for that matter they might get so pissed and she may end up dead or something" ouch. Sucks for her. Seems like the only way she'll figure somethin' out you know?

"I think she freaked and that might have been why she broke up with me but again her loss." Yeah, that happens too. I can't believe some people don't like that stuff, but I had an episode of this myself. You're like, see, I made you happy, and the other person just doesn't know how to deal with that. I don't even know how you should act for that stuff. I really don't know how you would go about doing something such as not freaking out someone by being nice you know? Shows where society has gone...

About ranting. Dude, these forums were dying a bit ago. It's good that people are posting again; that's all I'm gonna say.

BishiKaze

06-05-2006, 04:50 AM

thanks man and ya Im back lol couldnt really sleep my sleeping habbits got all screwed up, thats what I get for working night shift, all I know is I noticed I myself kinda regressed, like Im watching some kid shows I never watched for a long time and oddly its helping, maybe taking me to a time where I was happy just to keep me sane for the time being becuase I have never gone through the pain that she has put me through. I dont know if thats wierd but it seems to be helping me and I know I can go back to being a kid well at least not for two long but I figure a break from reality might do me some good for now. Let my parents take care of me for a little so I can focus on finishing school and then start my life up again in the right direction.

edit: I like for you guys/gals to post here so I have something to go back to for support but if you want to chat with me my aim sn is BishiKaze

viperrcr

06-05-2006, 04:57 AM

Sounds like a good thing. Going back home will let you get refocused and heal and realize what is TRULY important..."family"...
Take a break, don't even try to find another girlfriend just yet unless something just seems to happen on its own, just take some time for yourself do things YOU like to do. The most important thing is YOURSELF, you can't offer anyone the "real you" until you can heal yourself from this, so take some time and relax and refocus, you'll feel better b4 you know it. Spend some time with family!
Take care!

BishiKaze

06-05-2006, 05:01 AM

ya Im looking forward to it, I havent really scene my family in a few years so it will be fun to catch up and get back into some of my old hobbies I use to do in the country like archery and auto racing, it wont have the glam of the big city but my family support will be a welcome change, I am greatful for having such a close family to begin with. As for looking for another girlfriend a lot of people said dont look just let it happen and you will be happier so Im going to go with that route, god it feels goog being able to talk to people who has gone through what I have, I feel so much better just being able to talk and do what I like thanks you guys. Its nice to have and make some new friends on her.

BishiKaze

06-05-2006, 05:32 AM

well Im going to try and get some sleep again, see everyone in like 5-6 hours, Im trying to get back on a some what normal sleep schedule so Im sacraficing some sleep to try and correct lol

oh and even my tarrot for todays basicly telling me to chill:
Normally you can rely on your common sense, but today, even if you detach yourself from your emotions, there is still a high level of irrationality. Don't try to justify who you are or what you are thinking. Just be yourself and enjoy the surprising elements of the day.

egarrard

06-05-2006, 09:26 AM

I'm sorry it's hurting you so bad, but life is not fair nor easy. Just be darn glad that you didn't marry her or get her pregnant. You'd really be in hell then!

You fell in love with a lesbian. That was dumb and a no-win situation. You should have known that going in. You weren't going to be able to change her. That will have to come from within her, not from outside.

Moving completely away is a great idea. You need to think about how screwed up YOUR life is. Tarot cards? Only hanging out with women? Trying to have a live-in relationship while living with roommates? You sound like you need to get your self grounded first before you tackle contributing to anyone else's life. Take some time off and get yourself together. You are blaming her, but it sounds like you have a lot of issues too.

After you take care of yourself, here's a suggestion. Try to date a girl (or several) who is the opposite of the one who bailed on you. Don't focus on what is similar, but on exploring and appreciating the differences. That will help you get the old one out of your head. You will never find another girl with all the qualities that you loved in your old girlfriend. It's a side effect of us all being individuals. Don't make yourself crazier trying to find one. What is special will be different in each woman. Find and love that part of her and all the rest will come.

Again, sorry that this happened to you, but that's life. It could have been much worse.

Drizzt

06-05-2006, 09:59 AM

It's better your wife-to-be that left rather than your Wife. Particularly since she was homosexually oriented. I am guessing you knew that before you proposed to her. I have to tell you that you cannot change someone's sexual preferences from homo to hetero (or vice versa) no matter how hard you both try. It simply will not work and living the lie will only kill your relationship later if you let it get too far.

Be glad - she wasn't for you. It would have really sucked to find this out after the vows & rings are exchanged.

As with what egarrard said, it sucks that it happened to you, but that is life. You would only have been miserable later on. There are a lot of potential mates for you out there. You just gotta get back on the horse.

BishiKaze

06-05-2006, 01:26 PM

as for her being a lesbian I found that out after we dated for a few weeks but even then it for her reasons she was always unsure of her self and we talked about all sorts of things before I purposed to her and even then she was happy, sadly it was her gay friends who were harping on her saying she is betrayong "her kind" I told her is those people were really your friends they would happy with your choice and be happy that your happy.

But no worries I have had my break down moments but Im getting over it.

You know I dont blame her for what she did most of it is becuase shes scared and unsure of her self and I hope she finds who she is and ends up being happy becuase after everything she has gone through she deserves to be happy and I will always care about her and worry if she is okay becuase there was very little pople who truely cared about her even her own family dont care about her hell her mother divorced her dad when she was 12, then her mom marries some mexican guy who goes and rapes her and then her mom takes the side of the mexican then her own daughter, honestly how can you stay with someone who goes and rapes your own kid, shes been through hell and she doesnt deserve it and I really wanted a better happier life for her and again I hope she finally finds it.

eire1274

06-05-2006, 02:55 PM

You fell in love with a lesbian. That was dumb and a no-win situation. You should have known that going in. You weren't going to be able to change her. That will have to come from within her, not from outside.
(Looking around to make sure I'm alone...)

I married someone who was, in part, lesbian. But it was not a truely homosexual choice for her, it bent more on the fact that she needed an emotional connection that men, previously, had not filled. There are a lot of pseudo-lesbians out there, having homosexual relationships just for that emotional basis.

And there are the nasty ones. And, Daniel, I think you got a nasty one.

I've seen a LOT of supposedly "we're gonna be together FOREVER, because we're women and we're PERFECT" lesbian relationships go up in smoke just a few months later. In a lot of senses, the homosexual revolution has made expiramentation good and healthy as far as society is encouraged to see, but it shows the same lack of resolve that the current divorce rate is showing.

Life sucks. Kick it in the teeth: realize that problems that flare up and then walk out on you have walked out on you, note that your life is now less tense and YOUR PROBLEM JUST WENT AWAY ON IT'S OWN, and go out put yourself back together.

I'm not trying to be crass; I'm just one of those unfortunate guys who see no reason to weep over something like this. She wasn't up to the level she needed to recieve your love. Find someone who is.

BishiKaze

06-05-2006, 03:12 PM

thanks ya I know and its wierd like I think I have said already I know and my brain knows that but then theres a part of me thats still like what the hell but like you said she broke up with me and therefor I should move on becuase everything I did for her was I guess not enough or she just had a blind eye but again I am a lot less stressed out now, I only have myself to worry about and on the plus side more money to burn lol so I know in the end this is all for the best

Saturn2888

06-06-2006, 01:34 AM

Wow, you all put good points to use! Not only did you help out Race, but you gave a youngin' somethin' to think about when he finds another girl he likes!

Dude, Race, more money = happiness up to a point you know. If you work hard for something that you earned good and well, that should make you happy, not the fact that you have the money in the first place, lol! A girl told me this, and it makes sense: "Until you can be happy on your own, happy about yourself (no matter how nerdy you are) you can't be happy with another person or even make them happy because you don't define yourself."
It's like reading a definition in the dictionary that needs to use the definition of other words to help describe it right? The definition hasn't been defined, it's only been defined by other definitions, not it's true meaning. Kinda like that...

BishiKaze

06-06-2006, 03:02 AM

wow saturn
It's like reading a definition in the dictionary that needs to use the definition of other words to help describe it right? The definition hasn't been defined, it's only been defined by other definitions, not it's true meaning. Kinda like that...

thats very deep but no I see where your going with it and I know when I made the comment that I have more money now I didnt mean that its what was important just that now I get to spend it on myself and make myself happy by doings I want to do, I figured I spent around 15400.00 in one year on her, averaging 300.00 a week, I could have had a lot of **** lol or do stuff to my car or computer, do I regret it hell no becuase I did enjoy buying things that made her happy and stuff that she looked good in becuase she was worth it hell she still is but she made that choice to leave me so now I get to find a new girl that will make me truely happy in return that I then get to spoil ^^

Race234

06-06-2006, 03:31 AM

Okay its me BishiKaze, I figured out my account password so IM BACK ^^

I will be posting with this name for now on.

hobbs

06-07-2006, 03:01 PM

ahhh welcome back! still got your xbox? ;) i hope you feel better about what happened, feel free to pm me if you need and help! looking faward to seeing some modding projects coming from you.

Saturn2888

06-07-2006, 03:29 PM

LOL. Race, everyone remembers you bc of the XBox, lol!

StylesCD

06-09-2006, 06:35 PM

the motot is: NEVER date a lesbian woman... thx for the tip

Saturn2888

06-09-2006, 10:09 PM

LOL! I like how we're lightening this one up and also stating lesbian WOMAN! Fun stuff.

Drizzt

06-10-2006, 05:55 AM

the motot is: NEVER date a lesbian woman... thx for the tip

I agree. Never a wise thing to do. She's not your type.

StylesCD

06-11-2006, 11:22 AM

LOL! I like how we're lightening this one up and also stating lesbian WOMAN! Fun stuff.
well i'm just startin to go out with girlz.. so ya lol

Saturn2888

06-11-2006, 07:18 PM

well i'm just startin to go out with girlz.. so ya lol

I see. Well my comment was why he said lesbian WOMAN. If it's a lesbian, that term is designated for women so I took it more as a joke as in, there's still the chance to date the lesbian man/woman or something like that as in, he didn't rule out the possibility of transexuals.

Race234

06-12-2006, 04:18 PM

hey guys sorry I have been in thr forum as of late but between packing and moving from LV to Northern Cali (12hr drive ><) I just in fact got to my folks place and have everything unloaded, I wont be able to post to much as we will be moving lol again at the end of the month to their new house and at the new house I will have broadband, here they are on modem >< .

Im doing a lot better and thank you to everyone for your support and help. I actually might be seeing someone, Her name is angel, I grew up with her but never really had the guts I guess to ask her out not to mention she was my dads best friends daughter and ya he could benchpress me no problem so that always played in but now things are a little differennt and those who think Im rebounding thats not the case I never look at a girl or a relationship as a rebound not to mention I have been interrested in her for some time now and Im just going to take the chance while I have it and if it doesnt work ehh at least I gave it a shot.

Also lol its nice to be remembered as the xbox guy that was really cool to do that and be on the front page and everything, I guess I should do something with the xbox360 or ps3 or somethin lol. That xbox that I modded in now intergrated in my car as I play my ps2 now moer than my xbox but I have a modded ps2 also in my car too.

Anyhow I will be starting another project soon once I am settled in the new house, I will be making my own case similar to those mountainmods ufo cases, I will be hacking up two old lian li cases for the material I need but I will put more details, sections and pictures up once I am more involved in the project. For the time being the case I will be building will be used for a computer I plan to start building around the begining of 2007, why am I waiting that long well while a lot of you are aware Im sure from what I have been reading computer tech will be taking a different direction with windows vista coming out and that old/new hd protocol coming out so I figure instead of dumping money into a new system and then come the beginning of the year to find out half or more of it is now useless isnt all that appealing so Im going to pretty much max out my current system with whatever it can handle and mess with that until then.

okay enough rambling...once again thanks everyone ^^

Saturn2888

06-13-2006, 01:12 AM

You need to really take pics of those mods! *drools*

Race234

06-13-2006, 12:32 PM

no problem when I start the project I will post plenty of pics ^^

StylesCD

06-20-2006, 12:38 PM

I see. Well my comment was why he said lesbian WOMAN. If it's a lesbian, that term is designated for women so I took it more as a joke as in, there's still the chance to date the lesbian man/woman or something like that as in, he didn't rule out the possibility of transexuals.
could be a dyke or a bi

Saturn2888

06-20-2006, 01:34 PM

Oh, well I think we could call this thread closed. I think it would best, lol! I'll be waitin' for those pics Race!

Race234

06-21-2006, 04:59 PM

ya this threa is for the most part closed but always welcomed for advice and comments, I have a few hard moments but day by day Im getting over it more and more, it is a time thing but with all of you there for support and to just talk is great and I appreciate it all.

For right now I am in the planning phase of what I plan on doing with my new computer project and once I am moved and settled into the new house I will get started with the design and fab work of the computer case and what I plan on puttin in it so stay tunned I will post the thread project when I start one in my sig so that you can find it easier. ^^